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Frequently Asked Questions
Family and Friends
Q1: How can I support a loved one with breast cancer?
The most important things are to listen and to simply be there for her.
Although you might want to offer her advice, don't do so unless she asks for it. Many people who are first diagnosed suffer from information overload. Everyone they know is giving advice and information. It often get overwhelming.
There's nothing better than being a supportive, non-judgmental listener when she's ready to talk.
You can also help in very practical ways. Offer to go with her to doctors' appointments and treatments. Take notes so you can help her remember what was discussed.
And it's OK to ask her how you can help.
When Your Mom has Breast Cancer is based on our experiences at the Cancer Resource Center.
Another resource is a National Cancer Institute publication Taking
Time: Support for people with cancer and the people who care about them.
Q2. How should I tell my kids about my breast cancer?
You should be honest, but you need to explain what's happening in a manner that's appropriate for their age.
Here are some resources:
From breastcancer.org: Kids and Mom's Breast Cancer
From CancerCare: Helping Children When a Family Member Has Cancer
From Cancerbackup: Talking to Your Children about Your Cancer
From Breast Cancer Care: Talking with Your Children about Breast Cancer
Suggested books from Hurricane Voices
Q3: How can I help a friend with cancer?
Pauline Chin's article 20 Ways You Can Help appeared in our newsletter and addresses this question beautifully.
Supporting a Friend who has Cancer from People Living with Cancer